Blog - Dale Darley

50 Powerful questions to ask before writing a book

It’s almost summer, I can hear the birds singing, the printer has just churned out the synopsis of the book I am writing – Healing Osteoporosis Naturally. It seems that I am always writing a book or wanting to write a book about something that crops up in my life. I’ve told myself that this is the last non-fiction book and then it’s onto my first novel. The osteoporosis book seems so important and needed in this world of confusion and fear, it has to take priority.

I’ve taken time out from writing and I have been building the brand around the book. Today now that I have done that I will go back to my master template and book plan and check that each chapter does what I need it to do. I love the tear it apart and putting back together phase almost as much as the writing part.

And my novel – mmm erm mmm… I am going to write you, I promise…

When I work with people who want to write a book I know what goes on in their heads and hearts because I live it too. They inspire me to be the best that I can be, because if it is possible for me it is possible for them, which means that it is possible for you.

These questions are designed for you to be able to check in with yourself so that you can be 100% sure that you want to write a book. Writing a book is a big undertaking and there could be more effective uses of your time. Time along with self-doubt are two of the things that restricts a lot of potential writers. Writer’s block is always about what lies beneath.

It is a lot to ask of yourself, but it is extremely rewarding. Writing a book and sharing your words is a beautiful way to touch the hearts, minds and souls of others. If it is possible for you to evolve, it is possible for them. We live in a world where we need to know that there is hope. Your words, actions, and courage will inspire others.

We need to keep moving, to keep growing and to keep showing others that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you with me? Do you want to change someone’s world with your book?

Yes?

Then ask these questions and more, reflect and consider – what do I want to do next?

About you and your book

  1. What is your businesses core message?
  2. What is the core message of your book?
  3. How do the two connect?
  4. How do you want your book to work for you?
  5. What will it do for your business?
  6. What will it do for you?
  7. What makes you an expert in this area?
  8. What makes your book stand out from its competitors?
  9. What else could you use your book for? Don’t know – book in for a strategy session.
  10. Why do you want to share your story, knowledge or divine inner wisdom?

Your book and the chapters

  1. What is the title of your book – no thinking – just write?
  2. How do you know that this is the right book?
  3. If you could visualise your book on the bookshelves, which other books would it nestle alongside?
  4. Thinking about the flow of your book, list each of the chapters?
  5. Now you have the chapter list, what will each chapter cover (be brief)?
  6. What questions does each chapter answer?

Your book and your story

  1. Which part of your personal story or stories will you add?
  2. Why those stories?
  3. What is the key message of your story?
  4. How will sharing your story change your life and that of your readers?

Your book and ideal reader

  1. What will your ideal reader get as a result of reading this book?
  2. How will your ideal reader feel when they read your words?
  3. What do you want your ideal reader to do as a result of reading your book?
  4. What is the emotional connection you want your reader to make to you and what you have to say?
  5. Who is your ideal reader?
  6. Who might buy this book for your ideal reader?

What stands in the way of writing a book?

  1. What stands in the way of you starting this book?
  2. What are your perceived biggest obstacles to getting this done?
  3. What if there weren’t any obstacles would you still write this book?
  4. What barriers have you encountered in the past around writing a book?
  5. If you wrote this book and it did not succeed what are the implications?
  6. What could you do that you aren’t doing right now, that could make this happen?

Writing a book and your time

  1. Why have you never found the time to write your book?
  2. How will you determine that this is a good use of your time and resources?
  3. What if you could find/make/create/have the time? (Get up an hour earlier and write – I do)

Your thoughts about writing a book

  1. Will you do all of the writing?
  2. How do you feel about writing your book?
  3. What is in your editing plan?
  4. How do you feel about sharing your words?

Publishing your book

  1. What publishing route will you follow and why?
  2. If your first choice is not available, what is plan B?
  3. What is the publishing deadline? What might get in the way of you making that date?
  4. Is there anything that would prevent this book from being a success?

Success and writing a book

  1. What will this mean to you when you succeed and become a published author?
  2. What are your successful habits and how can you use them on this project?
  3. Which successful author do you identify with and why?
  4. Would you feel your book was a success even if it wasn’t a bestseller? (hint: the answer is yes, writing is hard work and being one of 5% of people who do means you rock!)

Marketing your book

  1. You’ve decided to use your book to promote your business, how will this book help?
  2. What is your marketing strategy for this book?  What is the cost? Who will do the marketing?
  3. What is on your product roadmap that extends the message of your book?

Think of all of the other questions you wished that I had asked you about writing a book and answer them from the heart. What does this tell you?

Take each section at a time. Start with the section that you feel the most resistance with and explore.

Whatever germ of an idea is surfacing for you, please do connect, together we can explore your stories, how you can use your knowledge and divine inner wisdom to shake up your world.

 

Write into July – writing prompts to start the month

July is always a special month for me. There are three family birthdays. Today my mum is 80, my dad would have been 81 on the 5th and I am sure he is lurking somewhere sharing our fun. Then there is my brother’s birthday on the 24th.

On Saturday evening I walked mum up to a local restaurant for her and I to share her birthday. Unbeknownst to her my brother was waiting at the table. It was very funny watching her face change from confusion to delight. These are moments to be treasured.

It’s month seven (of course it is…) and as we fall into the latter half of the year a time (for me) of reflection, but also a time of stirring. I can feel a desire to move forward again after stagnation. It wasn’t really stagnation, it was more moving inwards and being still while I healed my body and let my soul speak to me of desires, wishes and dreams.

I invite you to reflect on the last six months with seven wonderful things that have happened to you. If nothing feels that great reframe and look at your life’s events with a different eye. Witness your growth. There is always something to be thankful for.

here is always something to be thankful for.

 

Let’s kick July off with these writing prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go. Do you have a planner? Or do you perhaps set intentions for the month?

Julys intentions will put some reflection into your writing. Reflection always allows me to find something new as I make space for whatever needs to, rise up.

Writing prompts to kickstart your July #1

July is the 7th month and brings in the power of seven.

  • One – read through the five points on the infographic
  • Two – reflect before you write
  • Three – create a journal for reflecion or you can use this one
  • Four – take action, use this five-day planner to help you.
  • Five – write every day – even if it’s a bullet point
  • Six – reflect often
  • Seven – review the month and decide what next before you head into April

This month the theme is REFLECT. What do you need to reflect on? Whatever it is, ask with an intention which resonates with you. For me, my focus this month is beginning to reflect on how far I have come in my healing this year.

Write into July

 

Writing prompts to start the month #2

  1. Stop for a moment and reflect on your last six months – what do you learn about your personal growth?
  2. Choose seven elements of your life and write about how you can put some fresh life into them by reflecting on each
  3. Write a love letter to your body, and reflect on what it wants you to know
  4. Make yourself seven promises?
  5. How can you nurture your promises?
  6. What is your favourite thing to do on a cloudless summer day?
  7. What does your heart want for you going forward?
  8. Write to your swirling mind – reflect on what she/he says?
  9. If you could write a book, what stops you? Reflect on all of your ‘excuses’.

How to make the most of your July writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Write in a beautiful journal
  4. Pick the one that most resonates and write that first
  5. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  6. Leave and reflect, let your soul whisper to you

That’s it, July is the month for reflection and joy. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, if you have things you want to get out of you, find your writers voice and maybe even write a book, connect with me.

How to get connected to your conscious inner planner

Getting connected to your inner planner means that you will understand why your strategy is working or not. Consider this… If you like fresh, new and exciting why would you add a year-long business club to your product portfolio? If you do, you may find that after a while you are bored and not able to deliver what you promised your clients.

Instead by understanding your inner planner you may find that running a series of short programs excite and motivate you more. Which means you will love what you do and deliver great value to your clients.

If you consider how conscious planning fits into your life and business and get connected to your inner planner, then you will know what to effectively focus on. The first thing to consider is that planning isn’t an extension of the past. Yes we can learn from the past, and that feedback can be relevant and useful, however, we want to focus on who we are in the now and what we want.

Not what we think we want, more the deep down scary thing we desire with all of our hearts and souls.

I get that achieving your big scary hairy thing right now might not be appropriate. You may, for example, have a job which pays the bills while your heart is in an entrepreneurial business venture. That’s ok because at least you know what you want and you can lay the foundations. You can plan for it. You may want to build an build an online course, retreat and coaching process after exploring options.

The other scenario could be that you have a vague idea of what you want, something is pulling at you; something is lurking in your subconscious. That’s ok too because you can explore and experiment and use that feedback to feed into your plan.

There is never one size fits all, and there is not one way of planning. There is your way, as I have discovered. The more I analyse how I do things, and I mean in an honest way, the more I scare myself with what I discover. That is, scare me in a good way. The realisation of why, what and how I honestly do things and owning that is powerful. It also means that when I am aware, awake and alive to me and my stuff, I can accept my flaws and take action to change and to make conscious decisions. Do I stay doing what doesn’t work or do I get off my backside and change my habits and rethink my strategy?

So what do you think I am going to do? Damn right – change!

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What is conscious planning?

First. let’s consider what a plan is:-

  • A technical drawing
  • Intended actions

Let’s pull that apart – a drawing. Mmmm I like that. As a mostly visual person, I like to see a picture of what my plan is.

Intended as in intention. Once I have my drawing I can set my intention about what I do with it. Yep, I like that too.

Next, think about conscious.

  • Awake, aware, alert and to know.

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Together then I am looking at creating a drawing, from which I will set some intentions to take actions of which I am fully awake and aware of. Plus, I am going to tap into a knowing to enable me to make decisions about this plan. So far so good.

What about the speed of change and the impact of our plans?

When I consider what my technology looked like when I entered the IT industry in 1981 to what I have today, I can see the rate of change has been immense. Will that continue? I don’t know, but technology plays an important part in how we all work today. It can seem that to get what we want we have to embrace all of this ‘stuff’. We don’t. There are some tools that will work for us and some that would be nice to have and others that are complete time wasters. Pick your technology wisely and don’t rely on it, as I have learned to my cost.

What about the resources that Mother Earth has taken millions of years to create? It appears that humans can deplete them in what seems a nanosecond. What then? Our conscious planning must then take into account the environment that we find ourselves in and the available resources. What can we do to ensure no harm when we develop our plans? That is no harm to all and the environment.

People change. The way that people buy is changing, or at least I’ve noticed how I feel about sales techniques changing. With social media comes a clumsiness and I often feel bombarded with crass messaging and approaches. Sometimes I think I must be overly sensitive. Many approaches appear to still be fear-based marketing and formulaic, and yes you need a process and a map, but it doesn’t need to be automated to death and lifeless.

What I see and I guess that is because of the kinds of people I surround myself with is, the rapid change to people wanting a deeper more personal connection, they want to feel the pull of someone’s energy rather than have products and services pushed at them.

What do you notice about how you feel when you are being sold to?

That will tell you about how your inner planner needs to develop your sales and marketing strategy.

Many businesses have their eye on a cause and include something cause related in their planning model. Cause can also mean purpose, your big why in this world.

My cause is being heard, especially around healing. In January 2018 my spine fractured and I was poured into a sausage factory and I was not listened to. I fought to find the root cause of my osteoporosis and from there I knew that I had to help other people heal naturally. My inner planner knows how to develop and deliver my message around this cause.

As we consider these aspects then how about considering how these impact your approach to planning and the impact your plan and actions have on the people around you and globally?

You do not need a crystal ball, and although you have a plan and vision, things can change. Know you and be prepared.

 

Remember you do not have a crystal ball, and although you have a vision and a plan, things can change. Be prepared in the best way that you can.

What kind of planner are you?

I use a tool for my clients called what kind of planner are you. It provides insights for both of us when working out how to get the best out of our relationship. Naturally, I also become a witness to them and soon learn how to support them. However, it’s one thing being good at spotting how others plan and another understanding how I plan. You will probably have discovered the same.

I have a pattern to how I plan and there are areas I struggle with. In becoming more conscious of this, I have been able to put actions into place that excites me. We all have patterns, typical ways of doing things.

To be more productive and effective, we need to understand ourselves and the habits or patterns we have formed.

It is vital that when you begin to plan you understand your preferences, as this will help you not only to get started, but also to finish.

How we think, feels like a ‘natural’ part of us. You may be unaware of these non-conscious patterns until you learn to recognise them. Become a witness, and you will soon learn to identify them through your language and behaviour. This is often why projects fail – people simply do not know why they may become overwhelmed or lose interest or motivation. It’s all down to your preferences.

Having a preference for a particular pattern of behaviour can be very beneficial when that pattern is useful in a particular context. On the other hand, you might find it difficult to adapt your behaviour, even when that way of doing something could be more beneficial.

Consider how being more flexible with your thinking and behaviour may lead to more productive outcomes.

There are many types of planner. You may recognise yourself in some of these descriptions. I would invite you to take a good look at how you plan, consider what excites you, where you usually stop or pause and why, what keeps you motivated, what overwhelms you or what makes you want to not plan at all.

Big picture

The type that loves post-it notes and big rolls of brown paper or expanses of white walls to put post-its on.

Slow it down. Take time to reflect, but not much, organise around three core projects (this reduces overwhelm), reflect, craft a strategy for each and keep everything in achievable chunks. Look for connecting patterns in your three core projects. Go back to your wall quarterly (or monthly if you must) and do a refresher based on what happened and what you learned. This will keep your excitement and motivation high. Take one project at a time and apply detail. Yes, ouch detail…

Detail lovers

Not necessarily a fan of the big picture. You use planning tools and like to know what is happening now. You like to see your whole day planned out to within an inch of its life. You may be a daily, weekly or a monthly detail person. Whichever you are everything in your life and business is planned out.

You might not like to see the big picture; I would still encourage a planning with your outline plan on it and review it daily, then, go to your daily planner. You can put as much detail on as is necessary for you. Maybe do this quarterly so that you don’t get big picture sickness.

The over planner

You might do post-it notes, but more than likely you have a set of planning tools, and you just keep planning. You might even use planning to procrastinate. I’m going to suggest that you create a planning wall, from which you apply your planning tools, map out the big picture, apply detail and set a timer.

Break your year up into monthly chunks and then divide into quarters. Using your planner outline your strategy for each month and create links between activities, outcomes and the next month and quarter. Add in feedback loops. Step back and review. Then if you feel inclined, update your planner, and do it. Now take one thing and implement it. Feed it back into your plan. What was it like to stop planning and start doing?

Plan, who me, inner planner, who?

Ok, so you never plan, and things rarely get finished.

Have a go at the brown paper or white wall and post it notes, then try a planning tool, and give yourself one hour at each. Then ask which did you get the most out of. Stick with that for one week and work on one thing. How did it go, what did you learn, did you get anything done? If yes, why, what worked and if no, why not. Adapt what you learn and make it work for you. Ask someone to hold you accountable and dig deep to make the relationship and what you want to achieve work.

There are many more planning types and variations on these themes. My point is that you will have a style, understand it, know you and then flex it and you so that things get done.

Your planning wall

Regardless of what kind of a planner you are, if you can see your plan and you reflect on it each day, you will do things. How do I know? This is something that I have implemented in many businesses when I worked as a marketing consultant. While some of the team members kick and scream to start with, eventually they can see that

  • they are part of a team
  • they can see the bigger picture
  • they can often solve other people’s problems
  • they know how to make the plan work
  • when something needs others resources understand how the business works and how sales come in or not.

Every day go to your planning wall and review for 15 minutes, get deeply connected. Then you can move stuff onto your weekly and/or daily planner. Make time daily to craft a to-do list. I like to see chunks of my projects in time slots and other things I have to do as a list. I play Focus@Will for 60 minutes and then take a break. That is usually a walk in the rambla with my furry companions. This gives me time to reflect and recharge. Then it’s back home top up my water and grab a cuppa and back to my next thing.

Tips for conscious planning and your inner planner

C – connection to your inner knowing

Know how you like to plan, your preferences and how to keep yourself motivated. Sort out your back up – your accountability buddy, one that knows you and will hold you and hold you accountable. At all times check in with your inner wisdom. If it doesn’t feel right, find out why and always make conscious decisions.

O – own your plan

If you don’t own it how can you execute it? It has to feel good and exciting, achievable and something you want to celebrate doing.

N – natural

Never force yourself to follow someone else’s planning methodology. Review how others do things and learn. Find your natural way. Look at things that could do with changing and work out how so that they too become natural to you.

S – senses

Keep your senses aware, awake and alive. Tap into your intuition and ask what is working and what isn’t. Your senses are designed to support you and your decision-making process and your ability to stay motivated and on track

C – cause

Find your purpose, a what, a why and a cause. There is something very special about adding something to your plan where you can give back.

I – intentions

Set your intention to carry out your plans. Remember plans are not set in concrete, they are fluid and can change in a thrice. Set your intention to go with the flow and to change as appropriate based on feedback.

O – observe

Always be a witness to what is happening to you as you execute your plan. Observe your feelings, your physiological state as you do things related to the plan. Notice what happens around you when you do things. Use observation as a feedback tool.

U – Universe

Put it out to the Universe. Create your plan, own it, place it in your heart and send its vibration out. Your energy and intentions need to reach the people that need what you offer the most. Notice what comes back and again use this as a feedback tool.

S – system and strategy

Create a system and startegy that works for you. Know you. Change what doesn’t work so that you create better habits. Know why your system and strategy works or doesn’t and tweak it. Systems and strategy only work, at least for me, when I know why they work. When I know why I do what I do, I can plan to ensure that I stick to it.

We haven’t talked about setting goals

No, I haven’t, and the reason is that I would like to invite you first to consider your planning style we will look at conscious goal setting another day.

Final thoughts

In corporate life, I would never have let a plan slip. My marketing plan was fundamental to how my team and I would support the sales team and the business in achieving our turnover and profit figures as well as aligning with corporate social responsibility. As a solepreneur, there is only me, and I have to wear many hats. I get overwhelmed and scared and want to run away. This is only natural. What I have learned is that without that big picture and my daily review I am lost. I use a Business Planner. What works for me is visuals, daily to do, journaling and regular reflection. I’m lucky in that I know me, warts and all, and I make myself do things because when I start I know I am going to enjoy it and I am working towards my goals and dreams. But also that I do not want to let myself down.

My accountability buddy/coach is fabulous, and I am in a support group and a mastermind. I need people to bounce off and hold me to account. Otherwise, I’d write all day interspersed with doggy walks and some cake baking. A girl needs cake for her planning review sessions.

I love to know how you plan, what works for you and what you have had to make yourself do to make your planning work.

PS: if you are planning to write a book, developing new products and services, setting strategy, leaving a job then planning and getting to know your inner planner is critical to your success

Resistance. What are you resisting? What you resist, persists

Resistance is the refusal to comply or to accept something. Resistance is also a force and its root is to make a stand against or oppose. It is a force and often one in the depths of us that does not allow us to do something that would be good for us.

Let me explain. Things like resistance need a story.

Yesterday, I went to the doctor armed (up to the gunnels) with information about hormones and pathways and what I wanted by way of treatment following my blood tests. In January, my spine fractured and I was diagnosed with osteoporosis. The pain was horrendous and I spent 16 days in bed. When I called my insurance company because of the pain and I wanted advice, they said ‘call an ambulance’. No, I replied ambulances are for sick people. But looking back, following a visit to my doctor yesterday I realise I was resisting something.

When all of this happened, I saw a ‘specialist’ who refused to listen to me and my concerns, she simply prescribed drugs for the osteoporosis and sent me away. The prescription went in the bin. I was not going to take them and I certainly was not going to work with someone who did not respect me enough to hear me.

When I was able to drive myself I headed back to my normal doctor. He is an hour away, but worth the drive. He listened to me and ordered some extra blood tests.

When they came back we discussed them, I offered my solution. He said if I only had a DHEA/estradiol problem then yes I could do what I wanted. but as I have high prolactin I had to go and see an endocrinologist.

But I don’t want to I heard my inner voice protest. He could see it on my face.

He continued…

‘How do you feel right now? ‘
‘I feel good.’
‘There is only now.’ he continued. ‘Everyone wants the future.’

I laughed, ‘But the future doesn’t exist, time is fluid.’I replied

‘You must go.’ Conversation over.

I walked away and over my hours drive home I pondered, what am I resisting and why. I journaled.

1. I want an answer now – impatience
2. I want to do it my way – control
3. It’s a waste of the health companies money – I am not worth it
4. What will they find? Lack of control and fear

Are yours the same four resistance ‘things’? Or do you have something else that comes up for you?

When I woke this morning, I knew that no matter what I am living this life in my way, by my rules. I am going to do things, I am going to live. I am worth it.

I’ve just bought tickets to see Texas, also going to see Human League and looking at the ballet too. I love music and dance and I haven’t been to anything for years. The ex hated culture and along with lots of other things parts of me slowly died.

I have worked hard to love me again. And opening up to what I am resisting has cracked open another piece of my heart. It seems I have resisted the call of my heart.

Please when something comes up today and you feel a twinge, ask what am I resisting and then choose to grab life and live it come what may.

Try this resistance exercise

In the centre of a piece of paper with the word resistance.

Resistance

  1. Draw four shapes around it
  2. In each write what it is you are resisting and why
  3. Save the star for the BIG one
  4. Then journal for ten minutes about whatever comes up for you
  5. Now choose an action you are going to take to move that resistance out of the way

Interesting isn’t what comes up when we fight the forces inside of us?

Lots of love Dx

https://www.etymonline.com/word/resistance

Writing to heal – Where is my now?

Stop for a moment and ask where is my now? Writing to heal starts with a reflection of where you are now, not where you have been, although we will get to that.

Pause.

The birds are singing, Ferdy dog is by my side, the girls are outside, my computer whirrs, my head feels fuzzy and my spine aches.

This isn’t where I am, or at least it is physically, it’s not where I am emotionally or spiritually. This is the dot that I exist in the vast Universe without connection to anything.

Close your eyes. Where are you now?

You can probably still hear sounds. What if you were to extend your listening further? I am 40 minutes from the motorway, I can’t hear it, yet I can – in my imagination.

It’s dark isn’t when you close your eyes? Dark and strangely peaceful, as if nothing else exists.

Do you find your mind wandering or perhaps you are travelling around your body, enquiring about your aches and pains? Perhaps what calls you for your day ahead? Or maybe the things that have been causing you consternation are zigzagging through the inner peace that you desire?

When we start a writing to heal journey, this is to my mind one of the simplest and most powerful questions – where is my now?

My now is days of pain both emotional and physical as I work to heal my body. I cry often, but not for long as a curious doggy nuzzles me and demands a biscuit or a walk and then my mood changes and their needs surpass mine. My body is healing, it is getting stronger, I can feel it and I just know.

In January 2018 my spine fractured. When I think of my now, I realise my life fractured. The foundation of me shattered. That isn’t as dramatic as it sounds, it’s not like I am jelly on the floor and have to slither to my nearest dark chocolate bar. More of a questioning about every part of who I am and how I got here.

I’m a researcher, a questioner and often an annoying git because I want to know how things work. If this happens, then what happens next and why would that happen if you did this?

Currently, I am writing a book You, me and osteoporosis and as I start to write what I think is a simple chapter, I invariably end up with more enquiries than answers. Luckily, through my writing to heal experiences I have learned to ask, write and then reflect.

I know that once I ‘put it out there’ the answers will come. Everything will fall into place and make sense.

And if it doesn’t, well does it really matter in the scheme of things? The answer to that is – it depends…

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Writing to heal – Where is my now?

Everyone’s perception of time is different. Use this exercise to put your journaling and writing into a timeframe and into context, so that when you reflect you are able to consider more clearly how events that surround your life are affecting you and how things fit together.

Your now will have been triggered by an event, this may be an event that happened a year, a month, a week, a day, or even just an hour ago.

I find it best to get comfortable, relax and to let my mind wander (connect to your muse) as I ask each question. It may be that you need to run through the list of questions, then go and do something else and come back to write and reflect.

Your now questions part #1

  • What images, sounds, feelings, come to mind as you start this exercise?
  • Ask yourself the question, where am I now in my life?
  • When did my now start?
  • What was the trigger?
  • What has been happening in my now?
  • What are the main characteristics of my now?
  • What projects are you working on? Write down what they are, how they fit into your life and what contribution they make to who you are and where you are going.
  • What is making you happy or sad at this time?
  • How does each day start and end?

Your now questions part #2

  • Who are you having relationships with? Write down the names and what they mean to you.
  • How are your emotions now and as your day progresses? What do you notice about them?
  • What frustrations or tensions are you feeling? Where are you feeling them?
  • How are your health and wellbeing? Focus on your body and make a note of what you notice.
  • What exercise or me time are you having?
  • What is your diet like? Are you eating sensibly, or eating rubbish, are there any cravings?
  • What are your finances like and how are you managing your money?
  • What are you reading/learning that is contributing to your personal growth?
  • What play or creativity are you engaging in?
  • Where are you planning to travel to or explore (in whatever way exploration speaks to you)?
  • What are you doing to contribute to your spiritual wealth? Are you listening to spirit?
  • What contribution are you making to your community?

Your now questions part #3

  • What is my relationship with me like?
  • How much do I love me? Describe that love.
  • What does your soul want you to know about your now?
  • What are your three words for the month ahead?

Write quickly, briefly, and write unconsciously. Leave this for a few days and come back to reflect. What do you learn in this writing to heal journey?

Exploring who you are with words is my gift. No matter where you are or what is going on, having a sounding board can support you and your wellbeing. Writing is healing, it brings clarity and purpose. You may start journaling, end up writing a book and changing the world – how cool is that? Please connect with me, chatting costs nothing and it could bring a smile to your face.

Go on a writers retreat and kick-start your book

One of my fondest memories is going on a fiction writers retreat. So much so it encouraged me to start running writers retreats and up until recently, I ran these in Spain every year. That is until life got in the way. However, as luck would have it, a good friend of my and client who wrote Breathe Better, Sleep Better was chatting to me about her Ayurveda Sleep Retreat.

 

Although my sleep is under control, there was a time when it wasn’t and this was because of an undiagnosed overactive thyroid. Which I did sort out. But after having so many years of insomnia I know what it’s like to be menopausal, not sleeping and a complete wreck. When I first spoke with Anandi about her retreat, my prime objective was to find out what she would be doing and if I could use her learning to help me heal osteoporosis, rather than sleep.

Anandi is an Auyerveda specialist and we chatted about ‘types’ and how this retreat could help me to understand myself better, from another perspective. And as is my way, my desire to go on retreat grew.

When I told her that I had planned a writers retreat in Spain, but was concerned with all of the planning and how little energy I currently had, she suggested that I gatecrash hers and invite writers to come and work with me and gain the benefits of her wisdom too.

This means that in the morning we all get to enjoy yoga and connecting with ourselves and in the afternoon you write.

There are many reasons to go on a writers retreat, not least that you get time away from your everyday life and get some peace and head space to get your thoughts down.

You could end up writing over 10,000 words (or more) if you focused.

Back in normal life, just thinking about writing a book, when there’s a job to be done, kids to feed, a partner to please, a car to wash, shopping, cleaning, cooking and whatever else you cram into your day to day life, brings many out in a cold sweat.

I often hear potential authors say if only I could take myself away from it all then I could…

I'm writing a book. I've got the page numbers done. Steven Wright

I get it. When I was living with someone (ok I admit it, I had an annoying husband…)  it was almost impossible to write. There were constant interruptions and I watched my precious writing time disappear into the ether.

The best time I ever had during this stressful part of my life was a week away on a writers retreat, where I was shut off from the world with 15 other potential fiction writers. All I had to concentrate on was writing and the odd cooking session (when it was my turn). I felt like a writer, I lived like a writer, I was a writer and I wrote. It was amazing.

It’s this experience (and better) that we can create on this Ayurveda and Writers Retreat in Tuscany. Have a think about these reasons and then make that all important decision to get away and get writing. Once you have kickstarted your book there is no turning back.

Reasons to come to a writers retreat

Writers retreat. GET AWAY, GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME TO WRITE

  • To find inspiration for your book
  • To turn your ideas into something worth publishing
  • To pull something you are writing into shape
  • To find out how to plan, write, publish and market your book & yourself
  • Find time and space to write (this is my favourite)
  • Share your ideas with like-minded people
  • Get away from your annoying people who don’t get your desire to write…

If you want to get a book kick-started, there is no better way, than getting away. It doesn’t have to be a retreat (I am of course biased), but it does need to be a place where you can work in your way, to achieve your writing outcomes.

You could create your own writers retreat, if getting away is impossible

  • The garden shed – with a big padlock
  • The beach or another quiet location
  • Cafe
  • A hotel
  • Rent an apartment
  • A shepherds hut (chat to Lottie Moore who owns one)

Whichever option you choose, what is important is that you make the time to write and be a writer. Finding your space will enable you to find your flow and your next 10,000 words or more.

Journaling, blogs, books, healing and marketing

What a combination of things to think about, but for me, journaling, writing blogs and books all lead to healing in some way. And when you have a book to market you need to think about how to get it known.

Words are powerful. The words we say to ourselves get interpreted by our bodies and depending on what kind of words you use, you could be healing and harming yourself.

When I was first diagnosed with osteoporosis, the first thing I did was open a brand new journal. A short while later I started another one. One was for the journey, and one is a gratitude journal. The osteoporosis journal was to try and make sense of everything, which included my body, feelings, mindset and things that needed researching. And the other was because I found myself in a low place where nothing made sense, and I wanted to remind myself about the beauty of the world.

The blog for natural osteoporosis awareness was so that I could share my learning and wisdom and in some way help others. This gives me purpose and meaning, which are so important for healing. I didn’t want to write a blog, but it helped me to write my book and create awareness (marketing) in preparation for the launch in October.

I started the book with an idea, my story and a process – a way to create a unique healing plan for your life and for osteoporosis (a chronic dis-ease). Once it was outlined and a few chapters written, I took time out for marketing. This meant:

Then when this was settled, I was back to writing my book.

Each of these stages has given me clarity, purpose and healing. Can you see why I do what I do? This is what you do too.

Think about what it is you have come to Earth to share or teach. Each and every one of you reading this will get some clarity somewhere about what you are doing and the path you are on.

You may be journaling or resisting it, thinking about a book and not sure how to write it or market it. Where ever you are think about these things:-

  • What am I here to do? – Mission
  • What is my vision?
  • What is my core message?

When you know what your mission, vision and core message are, you can create a strategy (the steps to get you to where you want (and need) to go.

Start by buying a journal, get connected to your heart and write. Who knows where your heartfelt words will take you?

Here is a video about starting to journal as a reminder to embrace the power of journaling.

Have a wonderful day.

I have two groups on Facebook that are free – Writing for the soul and Natural Osteoporosis Awareness. Come and join me.

Write into May – writing prompts to start the month

Let’s kick May off with these writing prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go. Do you have a planner? Or do you perhaps set intentions for the month?

Mays intentions will put some movement into your writing. This is a new season (Beltane) and a fresh start. We’ve just had a powerful full moon n Scorpio which was a wonderful time for noticing any intense emotions. Just in case you didn’t there is no time like the present to release what does not serve you.

Writing prompts to kickstart your May #1

May is the 5th month and brings in the power of five.

  • One – read through the five points on the infographic
  • Two – reflect before you write
  • Three – create a one-two page planner or you can use this one
  • Four – take action, use this five-day planner to help you.
  • Five – write every day – even if it’s a bullet point
  • Six – reflect often
  • Seven – review the month and decide what next before you head into April

This month the theme is MANIFEST. What do you need to manifest in your life that is for your highest good? Whatever it is, ask with an intention which resonates with you. For me, my focus this month is beginning to focus on manifesting strong, healthy bones.

Write into May

 

Writing prompts to start the month #2

  1. What does manifest or manifesting mean to you?
  2. Choose five elements of your life and write about how you can put some fresh life into them by manifesting something useful
  3. Write a love letter to you, and ask for something that will bring you joy
  4. How can you pour love into your manifesting requests?
  5. How can you nurture your manifestations?
  6. Write about your all of the things that you want to manifest. What do you notice about your requests?
  7. What does manifesting something important mean to you?
  8. Why is manifesting something important to you?
  9. If you could write a book, what stops you from manifesting it? Visualise and bring that into being.

How to make the most of your May writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Write in a beautiful journal
  4. Pick the one that most resonates and write that first
  5. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  6. Leave and reflect

That’s it, May is the month for manifesting what you want. Find something to manifest that will fill your heart and soul. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, if you have things you want to get out of you, find your writers voice and maybe even write a book, connect with me.

Kay Sanders new book Messages of Inspiration

I met Kay about a year ago and we hit it off immedietly. Kay always inspires me and when she told me it was time for her to write a new book I imagined that we would see it in about six months. Little did I realise that in just 45 days Kay would get her book Messages of Inspiration written and be ready to launch in such a short space of time. Kay is truly an inspiration.

Here is a recording of our recent interview

What inspired you to write this book?

The idea for this book came to me while I was meditating back in December. During my meditation, I received this massive download and divine guidance to write a book filled with 365 inspirational messages from the Universe to bring inspiration and motivation to the world. Initially, I had no idea how I should come up with 365 powerful quotes but by consulting in my Akashic Records, the beings of the light helped me through guidance to get these messages on paper. I felt so very touched that I was gifted this mission to bring these messages to the world to inspire people that anything is truly possible and that no matter how difficult your life may seem, you can do, be and have anything your heart desires and these messages bring a deeper meaning to the readers to help them stay in awe of what is truly possible for them.

What is the title of your latest book?

Messages of Inspiration – 365 Days of Inspiration and Motivation – you can grab a copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C292JK4  / https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07C292JK4

How did you come up with the title?

The beings of the light told me the name

What is it about?

Messages of Inspiration is an inspirational and motivational book that is meant to inspire its readers that anything is possible for them and that no matter how difficult their life or circumstances might seem, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and always infinite possibilities available to create more joy, happiness and success in one’s life.

How did you come up with the idea?

I received the divine guidance to write this book

Who would you love to read it – what kind of people and why?

Conscious people who have the deep desire for more joy, happiness and success in their life. Who have been searching for answers, who want to be, do and have so much more and who know that life has so much more to offer but they simply have not figured out how to close the gap from where they are right now to manifest what their heart desires and creating a life full of abundance.

What were (or are) the challenges in bringing it to life?

Initially, I did not think I would be able to write 365 quotes and I figured it would take me quite a while to finish this book but with the help of the beings of the light and my record keepers, they helped me write these 365 quotes in as little as 45 days.

If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your this book?

Not one thing. I was following divine guidance it is perfect in just the way it is.

What was the best part of bringing your book to life?

Being gifted this huge purpose to bring these messages from the Universe to live and how fast it all came about. Now the best part is that it has already been making major head waves even though it has not even been released yet. Many have been eager to sign up for the accompanying email series and just the amazing comments and testimonials I have received so far warms my heart and I know it will touch so very many hearts and impact their lives.

What did you learn from writing your book?

That if you trust in your own abilities and just allow your inner guidance to take over, you can create something so beautiful that is going to change lives.

What advice do you have for other writers?

Don’t wait to write the story that you hold within you. Writing a book is not as difficult as it may seem and there are many who are just waiting to hear your story. If you think your story is not important enough to be shared, let me assure you it is, and even if your story only impacts one single person that is one person you were able to help and make a difference in their life.

What is your inspirational message for the world?

We often forget that we are infinite beings, who can do, be and have anything our heart desires but we often get derailed by our negative and limiting thoughts, the illusions we live by that keeps us playing small because we fear change, we fear failure, or we simply don’t think more is in store for us.

If you have had this longing to be, do and have more then don’t wait! Don’t be that person who envy’s others for all that they have, for the great lifestyle they live, for the amazing success they experience, for the joy and happiness they radiate. You too can create this lifestyle for yourself; believe that anything is possible, that you too can have all that your heart desires. Abundance, joy, happiness and great success is not something that is reserved for others; you too can create all the abundance, all the joy, all the happiness and all the success your heart desires.

Be the person who does not let their situation or circumstance determine their life. You can choose to say no to all the struggles, say no to the challenges you may be experiencing and say YES to abundance, say YES to Joy, Happiness and immense Success in your life.

What else have you done with your book? (e.g. Turned it into a course/Retreat/Speaking)

It is also available in a daily email series which also includes an action step to take to get the most out of the messages. Soon it will become available as a workbook, I will use it for speaking and I am thinking about turning it into a retreat as well

What opportunities has your book created for you?

So far I have received many opportunities to speak on different podcasts and radio shows, I may be sponsored by the local ballpark for a book signing and I am sure a lot more opportunities will come from it

Share a quote from your book

quote from Kay Sanders

 

Your message is meant to be heard, do not hide your gifts, your message, or yourself behind the illusion that your message is not worth sharing.

What books have influenced your life the most?

Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Be Gone and Believe it before you see it.  Lisa Barnett’s book on the Akashic Records and many many others

Thinking back to books of your childhood, what were your favourite books and why?

I was an addict to the romance novels of the old times

What book(s) are you reading now?

A lot of spiritually based books, personal development books and some business building books but mainly the spiritual books have caught my interest

What do you do for fun?

That is a very good question, I tend to work a lot but during my downtime. I love to meditate, read, be out in nature, and just BE

Meet Kay Sanders

Kay Sanders new book Messages of InspirationKay Sanders, known as the Creator of Possibilities is an Intuitive Business Coach, Certified Akashic Record Consultant, and Bestselling Author.

Kay helps conscious entrepreneurs find that missing piece to create momentum in their Business and re-ignite their Manifesting Mojo so they can make a difference in the world, create more freedom in their life and tap into the magic and power of manifesting their heart’s desire.

Where can we find out more about you?

https://www.kaysanders.com/

http://www.messagesofinspiration.com

https://www.facebook.com/kaysanders80

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theconsciousentrepreneurlounge/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaysanders80/

Write your way out of a rut and into action

I feel that I am in a rut. It’s not a well-worn groove and I’m certainly not in the groove, or at least it doesn’t feel that way. I feel tired, weary to my bones and I know that to get out of my rut I need to write.

It is deeper than that. This rut is a line in the sand, something has to change and the only person who can do this is me and the time to do it is now.

Last Friday evening the choice on TV was Sport Relief or Football. Neither stirred me and instead I subscribed to Netflix. It occurred to me that in the past I had gorged myself on Battlestar Galactica, Breaking Bad and indeed one period of my life was highlighted with Soprano Sundays. When I wondered had I lost this urge to indulge in the life of a TV box set? To allow me the pleasure of doing nothing.

I chose Cable Girls (Las Chicas Del Cable), a Spanish series full of love and betrayal. That was it, once I’d watched one I wanted more and given that I didn’t have a diary full of dates, dancing and bands, I indulged.

12.30 and moving into the early hours of Sunday and I decided it was time for bed. I’d seen enough for one day. My emotions caught me unawares and I burst into tears. Looking at the ceiling, for where else do you find God, The Universe, Spirit or some Higher Power, I cried out ‘I’ve had enough, I have had a shit life and it ends here.’

The following morning I realised that I was well and truly in a rut, a downward spiral of sadness as I tried to process my life.

Earlier in the week, I’d been journaling and from the depths of my soul, she whispered trust and betrayal. Just when you think this is it, I’ve sorted my stuff out, something else comes up. What next I ask with a smile? Why do they leave the darkest tar to last? Is the hardest stuff left towards the end so that you have more resources to deal with it?

The program was a reminder of how destructive trust and betrayal can be and this sadness didn’t leave me all weekend. Especially as after I’d gorged myself on one box series I found Reign which went on to cover the same issues love and betrayal but in an altogether different setting.

My rut has set in because I am a little immobilised by spinal fractures and pain. I have to heal and healing takes time and I admit to being a tad impatient. Dealing daily with pain is no fun. Yet I do not wallow in it. As I lie in bed I do exercises, when I get up I do exercises and I keep moving so that my body doesn’t grind to a halt.

My diet is of utmost importance, but I am tired of eating well, sick of green at every meal and I want to break free. Only I can do that. Only I have the power and the gumption to change what I eat and more importantly my life.

Patience they say is a virtue. Well, right now you can shove virtue where the sun doesn’t shine. I’ve had enough of waiting. Yet even as I write that, I know and I am smiling that I need this virtue to heal. It would be foolhardy to trek into the hills and risk a fall.

Risk a fall. It seems that all I have ever done is fall, but falling and fracturing again in this healing phase is not a clever move and so I look instead for reduced risk options, that still give me some semblance of normality. Normality within four walls is so hard for a person like me. This is a tough lesson. The truth is I don’t have four walls, my house is full of quirky rooms and I can move from space to space as I need. But still, I am caught in a brick box that does not seem ready to release me just yet.

Over the weekend I realised that I hadn’t written any words for my book. Instead, I journaled as I usually do. I needed to capture the essence of this breakthrough.

It is a breakthrough despite the tears and screaming at empty emotionless ceilings. In the silence, I was greeted with the stark reality that there is only one person to get me out of my rut and that is me.

Nobody is going to reach in and pull me out, because they are all in the rut that is their life.

It struck me that I needed to get back to work on my book and a course and I had to make myself. Ruts don’t divert unless we are prepared to get out of the safety of pain and trudge through the uneven ground to create a groove elsewhere.

You can get out of a rut with writing

Go and get your journal and pen, find a comfy space and write RUT in big letters in the middle of the page. The ask yourself these questions:-

  • Why am I in a rut?
  • How did I get into this rut?
  • What does my rut look like – bring in all of your senses?
  • Why do I like being in this rut?
  • What don’t I like about my rut?
  • How will I get out of this rut?
  • What if my rut didn’t exist?
  • What needs to happen to re-route the rut?
  • How does it feel to leave it behind?
  • How does it feel and what does it look like in my new groove?

Now pick an action and go and do it.

I’m off to my office to outline two chapters of my book (Osteoporosis and Me) and to write one. After which I shall start to outline a course – Write your life story – turn memories into memoir (avail May 2018).

The heavy driving winds from the last few days have dropped and I shall be out walking again this week. It’s been hard to walk with pain, but it feels time.

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