Blog - Dale Darley

50 Powerful questions to ask before writing a book

It’s almost summer, I can hear the birds singing, the printer has just churned out the synopsis of the book I am writing – You, Me and Osteoporosis. It seems that I am always writing a book or wanting to write a book about something that crops up in my life. I’ve told myself that this is the last non-fiction book and then it’s onto my first novel. I do, however, have the journey to self-love to finish editing, but the osteoporosis book seems so important and needed in this world of confusion and fear, it has to take priority.

I’ve taken time out from writing and I have been building the brand around the book. Today now that I have done that I will go back to my master template and book plan and check that each chapter does what I need it to do. I love the tear it apart and putting back together phase almost as much as the writing part.

And my novel – mmm erm mmm… I am going to write you, I promise…

When I work with people who want to write a book I know what goes on in their heads and hearts because I live it too. They inspire me to be the best that I can be, because if it is possible for me it is possible for them, which means that it is possible for you.

These questions are designed for you to be able to check in with yourself so that you can be 100% sure that you want to write a book. Writing a book is a big undertaking and there could be more effective uses of your time. Time along with self-doubt are two of the things that restricts a lot of potential writers. Writer’s block is always about what lies beneath.

It is a lot to ask of yourself, but it is extremely rewarding. Writing a book and sharing your words is a beautiful way to touch the hearts, minds and souls of others. If it is possible for you to evolve, it is possible for them. We live in a world where we need to know that there is hope. Your words, actions, and courage will inspire others.

We need to keep moving, to keep growing and to keep showing others that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Are you with me? Do you want to change someone’s world with your book?

Yes?

Then ask these questions and more and then come back and chat with me.

About you and your book

  1. What is your businesses core message?
  2. What is the core message of your book?
  3. How do the two connect?
  4. How do you want your book to work for you?
  5. What will it do for your business?
  6. What will it do for you?
  7. What makes you an expert in this area?
  8. What makes your book stand out from its competitors?
  9. What else could you use your book for? Don’t know – book in for a strategy session.
  10. Why do you want to share your story, knowledge or divine inner wisdom?

Your book and the chapters

  1. What is the title of your book – no thinking – just write?
  2. How do you know that this is the right book?
  3. If you could visualise your book on the bookshelves, which other books would it nestle alongside?
  4. Thinking about the flow of your book, list each of the chapters?
  5. Now you have the chapter list, what will each chapter cover (be brief)?
  6. What questions does each chapter answer?

Your book and your story

  1. Which part of your personal story or stories will you add?
  2. Why those stories?
  3. What is the key message of your story?
  4. How will sharing your story change your life and that of your readers?

Your book and ideal reader

  1. What will your ideal reader get as a result of reading this book?
  2. How will your ideal reader feel when they read your words?
  3. What do you want your ideal reader to do as a result of reading your book?
  4. What is the emotional connection you want your reader to make to you and what you have to say?
  5. Who is your ideal reader?
  6. Who might buy this book for your ideal reader?

What stands in the way of writing a book?

  1. What stands in the way of you starting this book?
  2. What are your perceived biggest obstacles to getting this done?
  3. What if there weren’t any obstacles would you still write this book?
  4. What barriers have you encountered in the past around writing a book?
  5. If you wrote this book and it did not succeed what are the implications?
  6. What could you do that you aren’t doing right now, that could make this happen?

Writing a book and your time

  1. Why have you never found the time to write your book?
  2. How will you determine that this is a good use of your time and resources?
  3. What if you could find/make/create/have the time? (Get up an hour earlier and write – I do)

Your thoughts about writing a book

  1. Will you do all of the writing?
  2. How do you feel about writing your book?
  3. What is in your editing plan?
  4. How do you feel about sharing your words?

Publishing your book

  1. What publishing route will you follow and why?
  2. If your first choice is not available, what is plan B?
  3. What is the publishing deadline? What might get in the way of you making that date?
  4. Is there anything that would prevent this book from being a success?

Success and writing a book

  1. What will this mean to you when you succeed and become a published author?
  2. What are your successful habits and how can you use them on this project?
  3. Which successful author do you identify with and why?
  4. Would you feel your book was a success even if it wasn’t a bestseller? (hint: the answer is yes, writing is hard work and being one of 5% of people who do means you rock!)

Marketing your book

  1. You’ve decided to use your book to promote your business, how will this book help?
  2. What is your marketing strategy for this book?  What is the cost? Who will do the marketing?
  3. What is on your product roadmap that extends the message of your book?

Think of all of the other questions you wished that I had asked you about writing a book and answer them from the heart. What does this tell you?

Take each section at a time. Start with the section that you feel the most resistance with and explore.

Whatever germ of an idea is surfacing for you, please do connect, together we can explore your stories, how you can use your knowledge and divine inner wisdom to shake up your world.

PS: Connect with me, let’s talk about your book idea and how to build your brand

 

Go on a writers retreat and kick-start your book

One of my fondest memories is going on a fiction writers retreat. So much so it encouraged me to start running writers retreats and up until recently, I ran these in Spain every year. That is until life got in the way. However, as luck would have it, a good friend of my and client who wrote Breathe Better, Sleep Better was chatting to me about her Ayurveda Sleep Retreat.

 

Although my sleep is under control, there was a time when it wasn’t and this was because of an undiagnosed overactive thyroid. Which I did sort out. But after having so many years of insomnia I know what it’s like to be menopausal, not sleeping and a complete wreck. When I first spoke with Anandi about her retreat, my prime objective was to find out what she would be doing and if I could use her learning to help me heal osteoporosis, rather than sleep.

Anandi is an Auyerveda specialist and we chatted about ‘types’ and how this retreat could help me to understand myself better, from another perspective. And as is my way, my desire to go on retreat grew.

When I told her that I had planned a writers retreat in Spain, but was concerned with all of the planning and how little energy I currently had, she suggested that I gatecrash hers and invite writers to come and work with me and gain the benefits of her wisdom too.

This means that in the morning we all get to enjoy yoga and connecting with ourselves and in the afternoon you write.

There are many reasons to go on a writers retreat, not least that you get time away from your everyday life and get some peace and head space to get your thoughts down.

You could end up writing over 10,000 words (or more) if you focused.

Back in normal life, just thinking about writing a book, when there’s a job to be done, kids to feed, a partner to please, a car to wash, shopping, cleaning, cooking and whatever else you cram into your day to day life, brings many out in a cold sweat.

I often hear potential authors say if only I could take myself away from it all then I could…

I'm writing a book. I've got the page numbers done. Steven Wright

I get it. When I was living with someone (ok I admit it, I had an annoying husband…)  it was almost impossible to write. There were constant interruptions and I watched my precious writing time disappear into the ether.

The best time I ever had during this stressful part of my life was a week away on a writers retreat, where I was shut off from the world with 15 other potential fiction writers. All I had to concentrate on was writing and the odd cooking session (when it was my turn). I felt like a writer, I lived like a writer, I was a writer and I wrote. It was amazing.

It’s this experience (and better) that we can create on this Ayurveda and Writers Retreat in Tuscany. Have a think about these reasons and then make that all important decision to get away and get writing. Once you have kickstarted your book there is no turning back.

Reasons to come to a writers retreat

Writers retreat. GET AWAY, GIVE YOURSELF THE GIFT OF TIME TO WRITE

  • To find inspiration for your book
  • To turn your ideas into something worth publishing
  • To pull something you are writing into shape
  • To find out how to plan, write, publish and market your book & yourself
  • Find time and space to write (this is my favourite)
  • Share your ideas with like-minded people
  • Get away from your annoying people who don’t get your desire to write…

If you want to get a book kick-started, there is no better way, than getting away. It doesn’t have to be a retreat (I am of course biased), but it does need to be a place where you can work in your way, to achieve your writing outcomes.

You could create your own writers retreat, if getting away is impossible

  • The garden shed – with a big padlock
  • The beach or another quiet location
  • Cafe
  • A hotel
  • Rent an apartment
  • A shepherds hut (chat to Lottie Moore who owns one)

Whichever option you choose, what is important is that you make the time to write and be a writer. Finding your space will enable you to find your flow and your next 10,000 words or more.

Journaling, blogs, books, healing and marketing

What a combination of things to think about, but for me, journaling, writing blogs and books all lead to healing in some way. And when you have a book to market you need to think about how to get it known.

Words are powerful. The words we say to ourselves get interpreted by our bodies and depending on what kind of words you use, you could be healing and harming yourself.

When I was first diagnosed with osteoporosis, the first thing I did was open a brand new journal. A short while later I started another one. One was for the journey, and one is a gratitude journal. The osteoporosis journal was to try and make sense of everything, which included my body, feelings, mindset and things that needed researching. And the other was because I found myself in a low place where nothing made sense, and I wanted to remind myself about the beauty of the world.

The blog for natural osteoporosis awareness was so that I could share my learning and wisdom and in some way help others. This gives me purpose and meaning, which are so important for healing. I didn’t want to write a blog, but it helped me to write my book and create awareness (marketing) in preparation for the launch in October.

I started the book with an idea, my story and a process – a way to create a unique healing plan for your life and for osteoporosis (a chronic dis-ease). Once it was outlined and a few chapters written, I took time out for marketing. This meant:

Then when this was settled, I was back to writing my book.

Each of these stages has given me clarity, purpose and healing. Can you see why I do what I do? This is what you do too.

Think about what it is you have come to Earth to share or teach. Each and every one of you reading this will get some clarity somewhere about what you are doing and the path you are on.

You may be journaling or resisting it, thinking about a book and not sure how to write it or market it. Where ever you are think about these things:-

  • What am I here to do? – Mission
  • What is my vision?
  • What is my core message?

When you know what your mission, vision and core message are, you can create a strategy (the steps to get you to where you want (and need) to go.

Start by buying a journal, get connected to your heart and write. Who knows where your heartfelt words will take you?

Here is a video about starting to journal as a reminder to embrace the power of journaling.

Have a wonderful day.

I have two groups on Facebook that are free – Writing for the soul and Natural Osteoporosis Awareness. Come and join me.

Write into May – writing prompts to start the month

Let’s kick May off with these writing prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go. Do you have a planner? Or do you perhaps set intentions for the month?

Mays intentions will put some movement into your writing. This is a new season (Beltane) and a fresh start. We’ve just had a powerful full moon n Scorpio which was a wonderful time for noticing any intense emotions. Just in case you didn’t there is no time like the present to release what does not serve you.

Writing prompts to kickstart your May #1

May is the 5th month and brings in the power of five.

  • One – read through the five points on the infographic
  • Two – reflect before you write
  • Three – create a one-two page planner or you can use this one
  • Four – take action, use this five-day planner to help you.
  • Five – write every day – even if it’s a bullet point
  • Six – reflect often
  • Seven – review the month and decide what next before you head into April

This month the theme is MANIFEST. What do you need to manifest in your life that is for your highest good? Whatever it is, ask with an intention which resonates with you. For me, my focus this month is beginning to focus on manifesting strong, healthy bones.

Write into May

 

Writing prompts to start the month #2

  1. What does manifest or manifesting mean to you?
  2. Choose five elements of your life and write about how you can put some fresh life into them by manifesting something useful
  3. Write a love letter to you, and ask for something that will bring you joy
  4. How can you pour love into your manifesting requests?
  5. How can you nurture your manifestations?
  6. Write about your all of the things that you want to manifest. What do you notice about your requests?
  7. What does manifesting something important mean to you?
  8. Why is manifesting something important to you?
  9. If you could write a book, what stops you from manifesting it? Visualise and bring that into being.

How to make the most of your May writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Write in a beautiful journal
  4. Pick the one that most resonates and write that first
  5. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  6. Leave and reflect

That’s it, May is the month for manifesting what you want. Find something to manifest that will fill your heart and soul. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, if you have things you want to get out of you, find your writers voice and maybe even write a book, connect with me.

Kay Sanders new book Messages of Inspiration

I met Kay about a year ago and we hit it off immedietly. Kay always inspires me and when she told me it was time for her to write a new book I imagined that we would see it in about six months. Little did I realise that in just 45 days Kay would get her book Messages of Inspiration written and be ready to launch in such a short space of time. Kay is truly an inspiration.

Here is a recording of our recent interview

What inspired you to write this book?

The idea for this book came to me while I was meditating back in December. During my meditation, I received this massive download and divine guidance to write a book filled with 365 inspirational messages from the Universe to bring inspiration and motivation to the world. Initially, I had no idea how I should come up with 365 powerful quotes but by consulting in my Akashic Records, the beings of the light helped me through guidance to get these messages on paper. I felt so very touched that I was gifted this mission to bring these messages to the world to inspire people that anything is truly possible and that no matter how difficult your life may seem, you can do, be and have anything your heart desires and these messages bring a deeper meaning to the readers to help them stay in awe of what is truly possible for them.

What is the title of your latest book?

Messages of Inspiration – 365 Days of Inspiration and Motivation – you can grab a copy on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07C292JK4  / https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B07C292JK4

How did you come up with the title?

The beings of the light told me the name

What is it about?

Messages of Inspiration is an inspirational and motivational book that is meant to inspire its readers that anything is possible for them and that no matter how difficult their life or circumstances might seem, there is always light at the end of the tunnel and always infinite possibilities available to create more joy, happiness and success in one’s life.

How did you come up with the idea?

I received the divine guidance to write this book

Who would you love to read it – what kind of people and why?

Conscious people who have the deep desire for more joy, happiness and success in their life. Who have been searching for answers, who want to be, do and have so much more and who know that life has so much more to offer but they simply have not figured out how to close the gap from where they are right now to manifest what their heart desires and creating a life full of abundance.

What were (or are) the challenges in bringing it to life?

Initially, I did not think I would be able to write 365 quotes and I figured it would take me quite a while to finish this book but with the help of the beings of the light and my record keepers, they helped me write these 365 quotes in as little as 45 days.

If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your this book?

Not one thing. I was following divine guidance it is perfect in just the way it is.

What was the best part of bringing your book to life?

Being gifted this huge purpose to bring these messages from the Universe to live and how fast it all came about. Now the best part is that it has already been making major head waves even though it has not even been released yet. Many have been eager to sign up for the accompanying email series and just the amazing comments and testimonials I have received so far warms my heart and I know it will touch so very many hearts and impact their lives.

What did you learn from writing your book?

That if you trust in your own abilities and just allow your inner guidance to take over, you can create something so beautiful that is going to change lives.

What advice do you have for other writers?

Don’t wait to write the story that you hold within you. Writing a book is not as difficult as it may seem and there are many who are just waiting to hear your story. If you think your story is not important enough to be shared, let me assure you it is, and even if your story only impacts one single person that is one person you were able to help and make a difference in their life.

What is your inspirational message for the world?

We often forget that we are infinite beings, who can do, be and have anything our heart desires but we often get derailed by our negative and limiting thoughts, the illusions we live by that keeps us playing small because we fear change, we fear failure, or we simply don’t think more is in store for us.

If you have had this longing to be, do and have more then don’t wait! Don’t be that person who envy’s others for all that they have, for the great lifestyle they live, for the amazing success they experience, for the joy and happiness they radiate. You too can create this lifestyle for yourself; believe that anything is possible, that you too can have all that your heart desires. Abundance, joy, happiness and great success is not something that is reserved for others; you too can create all the abundance, all the joy, all the happiness and all the success your heart desires.

Be the person who does not let their situation or circumstance determine their life. You can choose to say no to all the struggles, say no to the challenges you may be experiencing and say YES to abundance, say YES to Joy, Happiness and immense Success in your life.

What else have you done with your book? (e.g. Turned it into a course/Retreat/Speaking)

It is also available in a daily email series which also includes an action step to take to get the most out of the messages. Soon it will become available as a workbook, I will use it for speaking and I am thinking about turning it into a retreat as well

What opportunities has your book created for you?

So far I have received many opportunities to speak on different podcasts and radio shows, I may be sponsored by the local ballpark for a book signing and I am sure a lot more opportunities will come from it

Share a quote from your book

quote from Kay Sanders

 

Your message is meant to be heard, do not hide your gifts, your message, or yourself behind the illusion that your message is not worth sharing.

What books have influenced your life the most?

Wayne Dyer’s book Excuses Be Gone and Believe it before you see it.  Lisa Barnett’s book on the Akashic Records and many many others

Thinking back to books of your childhood, what were your favourite books and why?

I was an addict to the romance novels of the old times

What book(s) are you reading now?

A lot of spiritually based books, personal development books and some business building books but mainly the spiritual books have caught my interest

What do you do for fun?

That is a very good question, I tend to work a lot but during my downtime. I love to meditate, read, be out in nature, and just BE

Meet Kay Sanders

Kay Sanders new book Messages of InspirationKay Sanders, known as the Creator of Possibilities is an Intuitive Business Coach, Certified Akashic Record Consultant, and Bestselling Author.

Kay helps conscious entrepreneurs find that missing piece to create momentum in their Business and re-ignite their Manifesting Mojo so they can make a difference in the world, create more freedom in their life and tap into the magic and power of manifesting their heart’s desire.

Where can we find out more about you?

https://www.kaysanders.com/

http://www.messagesofinspiration.com

https://www.facebook.com/kaysanders80

https://www.facebook.com/groups/theconsciousentrepreneurlounge/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaysanders80/

Write your way out of a rut and into action

I feel that I am in a rut. It’s not a well-worn groove and I’m certainly not in the groove, or at least it doesn’t feel that way. I feel tired, weary to my bones and I know that to get out of my rut I need to write.

It is deeper than that. This rut is a line in the sand, something has to change and the only person who can do this is me and the time to do it is now.

Last Friday evening the choice on TV was Sport Relief or Football. Neither stirred me and instead I subscribed to Netflix. It occurred to me that in the past I had gorged myself on Battlestar Galactica, Breaking Bad and indeed one period of my life was highlighted with Soprano Sundays. When I wondered had I lost this urge to indulge in the life of a TV box set? To allow me the pleasure of doing nothing.

I chose Cable Girls (Las Chicas Del Cable), a Spanish series full of love and betrayal. That was it, once I’d watched one I wanted more and given that I didn’t have a diary full of dates, dancing and bands, I indulged.

12.30 and moving into the early hours of Sunday and I decided it was time for bed. I’d seen enough for one day. My emotions caught me unawares and I burst into tears. Looking at the ceiling, for where else do you find God, The Universe, Spirit or some Higher Power, I cried out ‘I’ve had enough, I have had a shit life and it ends here.’

The following morning I realised that I was well and truly in a rut, a downward spiral of sadness as I tried to process my life.

Earlier in the week, I’d been journaling and from the depths of my soul, she whispered trust and betrayal. Just when you think this is it, I’ve sorted my stuff out, something else comes up. What next I ask with a smile? Why do they leave the darkest tar to last? Is the hardest stuff left towards the end so that you have more resources to deal with it?

The program was a reminder of how destructive trust and betrayal can be and this sadness didn’t leave me all weekend. Especially as after I’d gorged myself on one box series I found Reign which went on to cover the same issues love and betrayal but in an altogether different setting.

My rut has set in because I am a little immobilised by spinal fractures and pain. I have to heal and healing takes time and I admit to being a tad impatient. Dealing daily with pain is no fun. Yet I do not wallow in it. As I lie in bed I do exercises, when I get up I do exercises and I keep moving so that my body doesn’t grind to a halt.

My diet is of utmost importance, but I am tired of eating well, sick of green at every meal and I want to break free. Only I can do that. Only I have the power and the gumption to change what I eat and more importantly my life.

Patience they say is a virtue. Well, right now you can shove virtue where the sun doesn’t shine. I’ve had enough of waiting. Yet even as I write that, I know and I am smiling that I need this virtue to heal. It would be foolhardy to trek into the hills and risk a fall.

Risk a fall. It seems that all I have ever done is fall, but falling and fracturing again in this healing phase is not a clever move and so I look instead for reduced risk options, that still give me some semblance of normality. Normality within four walls is so hard for a person like me. This is a tough lesson. The truth is I don’t have four walls, my house is full of quirky rooms and I can move from space to space as I need. But still, I am caught in a brick box that does not seem ready to release me just yet.

Over the weekend I realised that I hadn’t written any words for my book. Instead, I journaled as I usually do. I needed to capture the essence of this breakthrough.

It is a breakthrough despite the tears and screaming at empty emotionless ceilings. In the silence, I was greeted with the stark reality that there is only one person to get me out of my rut and that is me.

Nobody is going to reach in and pull me out, because they are all in the rut that is their life.

It struck me that I needed to get back to work on my book and a course and I had to make myself. Ruts don’t divert unless we are prepared to get out of the safety of pain and trudge through the uneven ground to create a groove elsewhere.

You can get out of a rut with writing

Go and get your journal and pen, find a comfy space and write RUT in big letters in the middle of the page. The ask yourself these questions:-

  • Why am I in a rut?
  • How did I get into this rut?
  • What does my rut look like – bring in all of your senses?
  • Why do I like being in this rut?
  • What don’t I like about my rut?
  • How will I get out of this rut?
  • What if my rut didn’t exist?
  • What needs to happen to re-route the rut?
  • How does it feel to leave it behind?
  • How does it feel and what does it look like in my new groove?

Now pick an action and go and do it.

I’m off to my office to outline two chapters of my book (Osteoporosis and Me) and to write one. After which I shall start to outline a course – Write your life story – turn memories into memoir (avail May 2018).

The heavy driving winds from the last few days have dropped and I shall be out walking again this week. It’s been hard to walk with pain, but it feels time.

How to use the language of more to change limiting self-belief

A few days ago I wrote in my diary how fed up I was and started to question my lack of self-trust and self-belief. Could I turn this around? Could I reverse osteoporosis naturally? Me? The trust issues go much deeper than can I trust my body to heal, this goes back through generations.

Trust keeps popping up to bite me on the bum and whatever your issue is will do the same for you, unless you deal with it. But how?

Identify something that is knocking your self-belief

The first step is to identify what it is. It may be many things, or it could be one. Choose the priority. How will you know it is a priority? Well, it will come as no surprise to you that I will suggest you journal. Play with words until one bites.

When I played with my words this morning the word was once again TRUST. What fascinates me is that right now while I ‘trust’ my body to heal the spinal fractures, my dog is surrendering to healing his broken leg. He doesn’t know he can’t heal; he just trusts that I will look after him and love him and all will be well.

The last few days have seen me cry a lot. I’ve felt tense and frustrated. You would wouldn’t you, if you thought that you couldn’t support a sick animal because of your injuries and pain?

But here is the thing. I watched him this morning as we went for a little walk and already he is tentatively putting his paw on the ground. When I saw that I was inspired by how he trusted that it would be ok. Plus he trusts me to look after him to enable that to happen.

This is what I wrote in my diary. I am not going to write reams about how I arrived at this, but know it’s been a lifetime of not setting boundaries among other things.

Trust. I don’t trust men to support me without an agenda. I think that it’s not just men and before I set boundaries around other people, it was not trusting people to respect me and allowing them to devalue me. Also, with all of the physical pain, I am trying hard to trust my body to heal.

Specify the opposite of your not so good self-belief by using positive language

Every day since this journey has started I have been writing positive affirmations in my journal. Not once have I used don’t, less or not. What do I mean by this? I could have written that I am frightened and the opposite is I am not frightened, rather than I am courageous. I feel full of fear and might have written I am fearless. It means the same.

Have a play with the self-belief that you think are holding you back and write the opposite using better more productive language. Pick one to work on and repeat to yourself like a mantra for the day.

I trust that my body knows how to heal and has all of the resources it needs

I trust others to support me without an agenda

I trust that I will always be surrounded by loving and supportive people

I trust that I will always have all the resources I need for life

I have lots of support from family and friends, and it has amazed me how I am surrounded by such love. All I had to do was ask. 🙂

Look at your new self-belief as if this were already true

We know the power of visualisation and stating things in the now. What you now need to do is create a new self-belief as if it were already true. Again watching your language and not use words like in the future or I am going to.

In my new version of life, being surrounded by only those people for whom we had mutual love and respect. I am in a loving fun relationship with a partner. The only connections I have are with those that feed my soul and I theirs.

My body is strong and healthy. It supports me and will continue to do so until my time is done. I have lots of energy, and I know when to take time out to refresh my soul.

I am working with courageous people who have an inspiring message for the world.

Clarify what this means to you, others and your world

Take a few moments to think what it would mean to you and for others when this is true.

For me: I am more at peace with myself. Great health means that I enjoy life and have the energy to do things that are meaningful to me. It means that I know that I have all of the tools and resources to be able to achieve anything.

For others: It brings us closer together. I can show how anything is possible. I allow other space and give them support for doing it their way. I can receive, and I am open to their love which means that they feel appreciated.

For the world: It shows what is possible. It inspires others to know that they can also overcome anything.

And finally, I wrote.

My gift is to inspire others to take control, find themselves and to have the courage to share their story so that they can inspire others.

The language of more is exciting because we tend to use the same kinds of words and phrases and not noticing what they are saying to us. This is where journaling can support you. Once you see it in black and white, it is so apparent. Go to your journal and highlight the language you want to change.

This takes my journaling further because it all comes back to your core message and to do that we have to move into our source of wisdom and love. We have to open up the spaces that hurt and allow healing to begin.

I hope that this inspires you to take a closer look at what is niggling you and that you find the courage to spill the beans into your journal. It won’t tell anyone, and this learning may lead you to write a book about your experiences.

Press for progress. I am not a number. I am not osteoporosis

Today is International Women’s Day. A day to join with your sisters to celebrate how far we have come and what we have achieved. A day to consider our values and the impact we want to make in the world. My call is for more awareness for natural treatments for osteoporosis.

What and how do your values enable you to create an impact? What does that impact look like?

Your voice carries a lot of power and so today, and every day it is essential to share your inspirational message, in some way.

In some countries, International Women’s Day is about women in the working world, mainly corporate and often around leadership issues, equality and diversity and in others countries, it is a celebration of women.

It’s 2018, and by now, you would think that we wouldn’t need to keep reminding the world that women need to be heard. That every one of us needs our voice to be heard, no matter where. However, we do and International Women’s Day is an excellent time to grab your journal and reflect. What does it mean to be a woman in 2018? What does it mean to have your voice heard?

What I like is that every year, this is a day to celebrate how much has been achieved by women for women. It is also a day to remind everyone to keep up the pressure. This year’s International Women’s Day message is #pressforprogress.

What does press for progress mean to you? Where would you like to see progress?

Women want equality, diversity, respect and for our voices and message to be heard. All around the world, we want our sisters (and brothers) to live well. We desire and demand to live in a world where everyone regardless of many discriminating factors lives in love, peace and harmony. I may not see that in my lifetime, but none the less, I want with all of my heart for every living being and Mother Earth to be respected, loved and cared for. I am sure you do too?

Regardless of this one day, there are many things we can do for each other, but before we do that we need to respect other peoples personal choices

I am not a number. I am not osteoporosis

We know that to be the change we want to see in the world is often easier said than done. Life is rarely easy, and if and when we are diagnosed with something, we end up being a number or a statistic, and we get labelled.

Right at this moment, I’d like to press for progress in the way that we are treated and heard in our doctor’s surgeries. Recently my spine fractured. If this has ever happened, you will know that this is painful. Not only that it probably heralds the start of a journey that you were not expecting – the discovery of osteoporosis.

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Until this happened to me, I had an understanding of it, but what I didn’t appreciate was how set in their ways some doctors are. I wanted six months to try a natural naturopathic approach. So that my doctor would understand I prepared two documents, which she ignored as she swiftly wrote out my prescription for drugs.

I hasten to add that my doctor is a charming woman, who has expressed her desire to provide natural remedies where she can. For example, because she tells me I also have arthritis, she suggests a supplement which is not a pharmaceutical drug. However, she questions how I eat and has not been trained in nutrition, so how could she understand that natural works.

What I desire is for my voice to be heard and to be supported. However, we shall work together so that I can get the best that science has to offer, which I implement the best that nature has to offer.

Back in 2016, I turned around an overactive thyroid with a natural approach. To this day it is still normal. I know that a natural approach works.

Then and now my decision is to do whatever I can to do to heal without the drugs but utilising medical services, such as blood tests and bone density tests. The problem is I do not yet fully understand if bone density tests actually show me anything valuable. The debate is open as to whether these show anything to support a natural approach.

Currently, I am in the camp that says I would like to be able to measure something so that I can see how I am progressing. Tests are one way. Other ways include how my body feels, my ability to move, the condition of my spine (it is currently curved), energy levels, ability to exercise, the level of pain, the efficiency of my digestive system (this has to work for the nutrition to work)

However, why should I have to work within a system that seems to me to be brainwashed and not open to other approaches?

It’s a little like the cannabis debate. A drug which has shown tremendous efficacy in many treatments, which however is classed as dangerous. Smoking cigarettes, drinking alcohol, eating rubbish food are all fatal and create many problems within our society. Yet they are all legal. It doesn’t make sense to me.

We live in a society that pushes svelte slim models. It’s not all about weight loss, what about focusing on gaining great health?

We need to start looking at each of us as a whole person and not made up of parts that don’t work. Let’s work on getting the fundamentals right and then like a domino the rest of the systems will work more efficiently.

Am I against drugs in the treatment of osteoporosis?

This is interesting. No, I am not. However, I am against them being used as the first approach. I absolutely respect anyone who wants to take them. We have to make the right choice for us.  And the natural path is not easy until it becomes a part of who you are. People will always comment on what you can or can’t eat and how you live your life.

In her early 70’s my mum discovered five fractures in her spine. We went into action and got books on natural approaches and mum looked at the drug options. She tried many things until her doctor prescribed a drug called Proteus. After five years her bone density (my mum and her doctor’s measure of success) showed an improvement. She was delighted. But after five years she couldn’t have the drug anymore and was given something else which has left her feeling many months later very unwell. She wishes that she had never agreed to this one. But it is too late. It is an annual injection, and it is now in her body.

My mum, however, has also changed her diet. As a mother, she feels guilty that I have this thing, but she also supports and honours my decisions about how I will treat it. This is not her fault. No one is to blame. This is as a result of life. I have this wake-up call because there are imbalances in my body and soul. Imbalances that I believe that drugs at this point cannot rebalance.

If after six months the way that I do it does not work, I’ll explore my options again.

Ok. I’ll get off my soapbox, but I will not give up my right to a healthy drug-free life.

What do I want for osteoporosis?

  • I want doctors to understand better the role that nutrition and lifestyle plays
  • To work in conjunction with both a nutritionist and a coach. Changing to a naturopathic natural diet requires a mindset change
  • I’d like natural to be the first approach where relevant and possible
  • Women to be given routine blood tests as they approach menopause
  • Women to undertake a routine risk assessment which looks at them as a whole being and not just in parts
  • For anyone with contributory factors such as in my case an overactive thyroid to be sent for a bone density test – as this is the only test we have available – we can only currently use this as a measure
  • For bone density tests to be given again after the first six months to check if the natural approach is working
  • For other blood tests to be available – you can see a comprehensive list here. Again if we have a baseline, we can measure what is happening, rather than leaving it to chance
  • For women who are offered drugs, to be tested as above and for intolerances so that they are given the right drug and nutritional support
  • Specialist exercise programs to be offered. It seems pointless to me to tell people to swim and do weight training unless they know how to create a program that will support their injuries

Before I close, osteoporosis is a threat for men too. It is a threat for young people. We all need better educating. We must not exclude anyone.

And finally, although I will probably think of many more things to add, for this to be taught alongside natural fertility planning and nutrition in schools.

I’m working on my book Osteoporosis and Me. You can register to find out about when it is ready. Alongside the book, I will be making available other things that I learn.

I’d like to leave you with this. This is not a disease or a disorder; this means that your body is not at ease and is not in harmony. You are a whole human, and there is never one thing that causes imbalance, it is as a result of many things. What I do to solve my problems may not be what you do – this is because we are all individuals and have to look at ourselves to find root causes and work to rectify them in a way that is right for us. I cannot offer you advice, but I can tell you what I do.

Please share this post and the memes so that we can work together to create change.

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If you have a personal story that needs to be told, please get in touch, we can chat about your book and how you can help others to see whats possible for them.

Honour yourself on International Women’s Day and every day

Tomorrow is International Women’s Day. A day to join with your sisters to celebrate how far we have come and what we have achieved. A day to consider our values and the impact we want to make in the world.

To be able to create the change we want to see, we have to take time out to honour who we are.

Make International Women’s Day and every day, a day to honour yourself

Unless we learn to honour who we are and learn to love ourselves enough, we will not have firm foundations from which to move forward. Here are a few simple ideas that you can implement.

Write yourself a love letter

Love letter to you

 

Write a letter from your heart to your soul and body. Explain in simple terms why you love you. Put pen to paper and trust that what is meant to be written will emerge. Think of what International Women’s Day and press for progress mean to you.

Write a letter and wave goodbye to all that does not serve you and be open to new opportunities

One of the more fun things that I do when I am feeling down is to write a letter about what I’d like to come into my life. I am mindful of how I write it because the mind is a powerful thing. So for example, if you have had a tough time with a past relationship, consider what good things have come from it; I certainly say thank you to three relationships for allowing me to live the life I do today.

Say thank you and then ask how is it possible for me too, for example, have a beautiful relationship, where we are equal, and I am loved and respected for who I am? Your words, your way. Then when you have written what you need to positively, burn your letter. As you watch the flames flicker, give thanks and send love to the past.

Do something to honour your body

Make and eat something delicious and nutritious and do it mindfully. I adore my Nutribullet and making gorgeous smoothies. I also have reflexology regularly and if you can make some time in your diary to feel the healing touch of another. Even if you can’t get to see a masseur, run a luscious bath, put on some meditation music, light some candles, choose a calming oil, smother your face with avocado and drift off.

Replace a ‘not so good’ food with something yummy and healthy

Honour your body

If you currently reward yourself with something high fat or full of processed sugar, consider swapping it out for something healthier. This doesn’t mean eating a carrot, although you could make some delicious homemade hummus; one of my favourites. Another idea might be to dip some of your favourite fruit in raw chocolate – oh yes!!!

Practice self-healing

You don’t have to be a ‘trained’ healer to do this; anyone can heal. Close your eyes and take some deep relaxing breaths. Place one hand at your heart and one under your breasts (solar plexus). Open your heart to healing and be open to what comes. Focus on drawing in energy to create inner peace, balance and harmony. Another idea could be to massage your tummy – the womb of your femininity. Use some lovely oils, maybe something like neroli to encourage creativity.

Rescue a dog or three

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As a mum to three rescues, I would say this, wouldn’t I? I feel blessed to have them as a part of my life. Not a day goes by where they don’t make me laugh. With dogs, I can’t make any excuses for not getting out as they need to run around and sniff. The benefits include getting a lung full of fresh air and some exercise, I am experiencing Mother Nature, and getting an opportunity to reflect.

Do something creative

Write a blog or a book, paint a picture or make something. I write most days, but for relaxation, I knit strange dolls. What about a bit of adult colouring in? Creativity opens you up to opportunities.

Wear something that makes you feel feminine

Given where I live up in the hills, I usually wear something practical as I need to get out and walk my dogs. When I get the chance, I like to choose something more feminine outfit and ignore how my walking shoes might look… What could you put on that makes you feel like great?

Buy flowers and brighten up your home and/or workspace

Place your flowers in a gorgeous vase where you can see them throughout the day. As you look at them, remind yourself of your inner beauty. If you don’t want to buy cut flowers what could you collect from nature? Around me is loads of lavender and rosemary – bliss.

Don’t wait for someone to buy you flowers, buy them for yourself

Say thank you

Say thank you for who you are, whether physical or spiritual.

Make this International Women’s Day and every day a day to support a sister

Giving back is a wonderful way to feel great as you do good. It doesn’t have to be costly or take too much of your time. Try some of these:-

Offer a complimentary mentoring session

You have incredible knowledge, skills and experience, who might benefit from a Skype call or a cuppa with you? That hour could change both of your lives.

Sponsor a sister

Make a small monthly donation to someone who is less fortunate than you.

Give a gift

 

Footprints. Leave your footprints in someones heart

Leave your footprints in someone’s heart. Create your legacy today. If you have a book or an online course, consider giving a gift to another woman. I often give coupons to my courses away, which I hope will inspire someone to write a book.

Challenge unconscious bias amongst your male family and friends

Open the conversation with your ‘brothers’ and fellow humans and ask them what they think and how they can help to create balance and harmony. Consider how you can work together to create inclusive education, awareness and action.

Be more flexible with your working day

If you are self-employed, consider how you can flex your day. As an early riser, I often write early, then head out for a walk (although not right at the moment) and do whatever I want to, ensuring that I get done what needs to be actioned. I am mindful that clients may need to talk on the weekend or evenings, which is often the case with writing a book. If that is the case, I make space, providing I have the energy and no other commitments. Being flexible means that you can achieve so much more. Try it. It may feel strange if you are not long into self-employment.

Slip some money into someone’s pocket

I am not suggesting that you creep stealth like and unpick someone’s pocket, but you could leave some cash (doesn’t have to be much) with a note in the ladies toilet for some unsuspecting sister. Tell her to have a cuppa on you.

Say thank you to a fellow woman leader

Is there a woman who you consider to be a leader? Tell her what an excellent job she is doing.

Say thank you

Thank someone for something that they have done for you.

Whoever you are reading this, from wherever, celebrate being you and give thanks to the women in your life.

Write into March – writing prompts to start the month

Let’s kick March off with these writing prompts. Writing prompts are a great way to think about where you are and where you would like to go. Do you have a planner? Or do you perhaps set intentions for the month?

March intentions will put a spring into your writing. It’s considered the first month of Spring and a time for some fresh thinking. It’s a new season and a new start. We’ve just had a powerful full moon which is always a wonderful time to let go of things. Just in case you didn’t there is no time like the present to release what does not serve you.

Writing prompts to kickstart your March #1

  • One – read through the five points on the infographic
  • Two – reflect before you write
  • Three – create a one-two page planner or you can use this one
  • Four – take action, use this five-day planner to help you.
  • Five – write every day – even if it’s a bullet point
  • Six – reflect often
  • Seven – review the month and decide what next before you head into April

This month the theme is BEGINNINGS. That can be beginning again, it could be beginning something entirely new. Whatever it is, do or be it with an intention to find something that resonates with you. For me, my focus this month is beginning to focus on strengthening my body, albeit slowly.

March infographic

 

Writing prompts to start the month #2

  1. What does beginning mean to you?
  2. Choose four elements of your life and write about how you can put some fresh life into them
  3. Write a love letter to you, expressing how your new beginnings will bring you joy
  4. How can you pour love into your new beginnings?
  5. How can you nurture your new beginning?
  6. Write about your all the times you have started something and not completed it. What do you notice about the patterns?
  7. What does Spring mean to you?
  8. How can you love anything new that you start so that you complete it?
  9. What makes you feel excited about introducing something new?
  10. Why is making a fresh start important to you?
  11. If you could write a book, what stops you from starting and why?

How to make the most of your March writing prompts

  1. This is not a race against time, savour each question and take your time
  2. Get into the right writing space
  3. Write in a beautiful journal
  4. Pick the one that most resonates and write that first
  5. Allow whatever wants to be written come up
  6. Leave and reflect

That’s it, March is the month of new beginnings. Find something new to start that will fill your heart and soul. Write often, enjoy the month and remember to spoil you every day.

If you’d love more of this writing stuff, if you have things you want to get out of you, find your writers voice and maybe even write a book, connect with me or get on The Writing Zone waiting list. Once you enter the Writer’s Lounge your pen will never be the same again…

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